FAQs

Do you offer forever letter writing workshops or retreats?

Yes! And they are my favorite! I offer day-long (3-5 hours) and weekend-long retreats, as well as 3-part workshop series. Inquire directly with me via email at connect@theeverwell.com or by scheduling a Discovery Call.

Do you offer other writing services?

Yes, I also ghost write for toasts, eulogies, obituaries, occasion letters, Forever Letters to aging parents, or the like. My standard $150/hr rate applies. Inquire directly with me via email at connect@theeverwell.com or by scheduling a Discovery Call.

What is ghost-writing?

When a professional writer writes on your behalf, as if they are you. For a Custom Letter, I will write your letter as if I'm you, based on all the details and information collected in the Clarity Call.

Can I read examples of your letter-writing?

I'm happy to share examples of letters I've written after we've connected on a Discovery Call. Because of the highly personal nature of my clients' letters, and my commitment to maintaining confidentiality, examples are restricted to my personal letters. My writing can be found on my Substack and YouTube channel.

Why leave a Legacy Letter?

The aftermath of death, for the grieving survivors, is largely administrative, and the focus is mostly on one kind of worth—one’s net worth: assets, estate, ownership, inheritance, etc. There's a huge gaping hole when it comes to personal worth: the value of who you’ve been, and how you’ve loved, and the worth of your unique parent-child relationship. Wills, by design, are void of emotion. And yet, emotions are, arguably, the most valuable part of human life.

Including a Foever Letter in your end-of-life planning, shines light on and honors a lifetime of parental love, devotion and connection. And it enables your voice and sentiments to guide your child through the process of estate administration after your death.

Will my Legacy Letter be included in my will?

Great question! You'd think it should be. The truth is that a love letter is not a legal matter. Lawyers must keep emotions out of the will entirely. Trust and estate plans and directives must be black and white; and emotions, by nature, live in the grays of life. After writing your Forever Letter, you can request that your lawyer keeps it as a "side letter" that gets delivered alongside the will. Or, alternatively, my recommendation is that you keep a distinct folder or fireproof safe at home that your next of kin knows to open at the time of your passing. Your Forever Letter can live there until it's read by the intended recipient.

I didn't know legacy letters was a thing. Is it?

Well, sort of. Ethical wills, also referred to as legacy letters, are a place to capture one’s personal values, beliefs, love, gratitude and apologies. And the practice of writing them has existed for millennia, but is an uncommon practice in the modern age of end-of-life preparations. But the practice of encapsulating one’s experience of parenthood in a direct love letter to one’s child is a practice that some think to do independently, but it's not protocol with will and estate planning. (Will & Estate Lawyers typically aren't interested in or equipped to handle the emotional side of death—I've asked many of them, and they're the first to say it.)

The term Forever Letter is one that I've coined, and my hope is to normalize love letter writing as part of end-of-life planning. To learn more, I describe the genesis of Forever Letters here. And I open up about my experience of writing Forever Letters to my three kids here.

If I have more than one child and want to write individual letters to each, how does pricing work ?

Each letter option outlines the price for (1) letter with one recipient. That's because each recipient of a Forever Letter requires their own 2-hour Zoom call to gather all the details of the relationship that are required to write the letter. For each requested sibling letter, clients receive a $100 discount on listed pricing.

How do I begin?

Let's talk and see if we're meant to be letter-writing partners. Connect directly with me via email at connect@theeverwell.com or by scheduling a free Discovery Call below.